Just a brief recap before we pull this brief piece through. We are dealing with a three way issue here. I stated from the first write up that there are three angles to a sustainable marriage or relationship. As stated they include;
1. Attraction
2. Love
3. Friendship.
We have dealt with the issue of attraction which we wrote on in two parts with the main message established being that attraction is important but not a sufficient condition for a sustainable relationship or marriage ( refer to the archive to read about them). We later moved to love. In writing about Love I decided to be particular by not talking about love in the general sense but in the particular. Based on that, I decided to write on falling in love. I established the three ingredients one needs when we fall in love. This ingredient include; the word, the life and the effect of falling in love. We shall conclude here on the issue of falling in love by looking at the effect of falling in love. ( Refer to my archive to read on the word and the life of falling in love). These therefore is the second aspect of our trilogy and the third note on this second aspect. We call it the effect of falling in love.
When we get to that point where we say I speak the word in love and I have life in my
relationship or marriage, the positive effect it brings to that marriage is truly electrifying. You are bound to see a couple with the spirit of a baby coupled with deep Innocence and genuine openness in anything and every thing done. Who questions a stable marriage? Who has anything against individuals who stand as a sweet example when it comes to being married? Marriage can be sweet if we know what to do. This also stands as a message single people should understand before they say 'I do'
In marriage, it is essential to let the couple know that what ever they do affect them, the children, extended family, friends and society at large. It therefore becomes imperative to get it right and be slow at taking wrong decisions. Couples are so quick at acting before they think and in most cases, the decision they take come up with devastating consequences. To neglect the word and the life is to produce negative effects. This negative effects some times make you ask if the two were ever in love. Some take this negative effect and even make it a glorified media affair when in most cases, it is some thing they need to be ashamed to talk about. To neglect the word and that which brings life to your Love life is to produce negative effects like;
1. Divorce
2.Battery
3.Murder
People divorce at will because they fail to know how to get it right. Some couple in frustration resort to beating themselves and some have plotted the death of their partner without any one knowing. In most cases, that which lead to this negative effects are ordinarily issues that ought to have been resolved without even a third party knowing. However, because they neglect those factors which should have brought life into their relationship, they listen only to their own reasoning and to that of friends who tell them only that which they want to hear. The result is always the above three mentioned factors. I will ask you at this point to read again and understand what I wrote on the word and life as far as this topic is concerned.
To those who however choose to live the life of falling in love within the confine of the word and life, the effect is beautiful. To fall in love is sweet and we are not assuming that all will be rosy. It never says there will be no disagreement. It never says there will be no problems. It never says every thing will be smooth. It merely says that in the midst of all and what ever comes, Love conquers all. Love, when it goes beyond the word and has life will conquer anything. Marriage is not a one hundred meter dash, its a life marathon which says until death do us part. Love is and can remain a very beautiful thing if only we know what it means to be in love and how to live in love to get the result listed below;
1.Love within this circle produces stability.
2.Love within this circle produces happiness
3. Love within this circle produces good health
4. Love within this circle can result in longer life span
5. Love within this circle will breed trust, believe and faith in one another
6. Divorce will not be considered
7. In this circle, you will see a couple who tackles and fights the issues of life together
8. In this circle, you will see openness and not secrets
9.Here, there is peace
10. Here, satisfaction is exceptional.
I have said it before and I will say it again, to say I am in love with you is to say I have taken upon myself the huge responsibility of living in the word, operating with what gives that word life so that I can enjoy a positive effect. Heaven will help us when we allow heaven to help us. Heaven will not help us if we deliberately choose to remain perpetually ignorant. Know what you are doing. Know when you need to do it. And know how you need to do it. That is what I have done with the three parts on falling in love. Before you allow things go wrong just remember when you first met, how you met, the promises you made to each other and the beautiful life you both promise yourself. Love is worth living for. Love is worth fighting for. Love is worth sacrificing all for. Please Take it from here.
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