Again, the idea places on you some level of social or societal responsibility which makes you a role model in society. Little wonder you become a headliner once any of the gossip magazines discover any thing about you especially When it appears as some thing negative.
Being a celebrity also means you are seen as one who sets standard. Little wonder you begin to find individuals who want to walk like you, talk like you, make your kind of hair, dress like you, look like you, or even eat like you.
In a way therefore, while the celebrity is out there doing his own thing, enjoying his or her own life, society always fail to separate their professional life from their personal life. This is why people get disappointed when they do the unexpected placing on them the tag 'invincible' when they are not.
I love celebrities and I do not have any issue or issues with them maintaining their personal lives. Where I do have issues is when a celebrity wants to make what should be a personal issue a public one. Or come to the public and glorify failure with pride.
One wonders what goes through the mind of many of them before they get married. Is the expression of physical passion all they see. Is that why they marry? Today, they marry and divorce like a reverend fathers who changes wears after celebrating the mass. They walk in and out of marriages as if they created that institution and they can recreate it however they like and when ever they like. Many live very stupid life styles. Life styles they ought to be very ashamed of.
The rate of divorce in the celebrity circle is indeed very alarming and this is robbing off on society as many have followed in their footsteps. People now divorce over the flimsiest of excuses. This excuses include;* We no longer like each other
* we disagree on so many things
* he or she is selfish
* I am no longer attracted to her
* we can no longer cope
* she does not want babies and I do
* He is never at home
* he lies too much.
* he drinks alcohol too much
* I asked him to choose between me and his female friends
* we are like two captains flying these plane
* we discovered that we belong to two separate world.
* he is too proud
* we are no longer compatible.
The list is endless.
When a being takes a marriage vow, they say its for better for worse. For better for worse because marriage is not all about being together only when things are better. Its not only when you agree. The best of marriages are not those ones without issues. In truth, if you don't face issues in your marriage, it only means both of you are merely pretending. Every marriage will go through its own fire so that it can be purified. Gold does not become what it is today by being thrown into water. Every marriage will have its own deep water to pass through. Stop killing the issues you would have turned into a testimony on the altar of pride, greed, self and lose of focus only to call it irreconcilable differences. What is irreconcilable about it? If you have failed, please say I failed. Why will issues be irreconcilable when forgiveness is one of the hallmark of a successful marriage. Its not like you discovered after marriage that the guy is impotent!
The Americans should come and learn from Africans. The Africans who are importing this stupid divorce culture here should concentrate their energy on making our world better and not destroy it. When two elephants fight, only the grass suffer. The children are in most cases the victims of this shameful act. They will be with mother from monday to friday in new york, then visit their father saturday to sunday in new jersey. The same thing applies all over. The children become in many cases product of negativity because of failed marriages. When will humanity learn?
My challenge to my generation is simple, look at those celebrities who made their marriages work and not those who preach the 'gospel' of irreconcilable differences. Olu jacob is still married to joke sylva. The man does not even care if she still answers her fathers name in public. Many abound like that across the country. Learn from them. Look at the bright side of life. Pick the good things and not the negatives from our celebrities. I do not believe in irreconcilable differences as every divorce is at bottom the out come of pride, greed, selfishness and poor sense of judgment.
It pays not to begin a journey you cannot end. Love is patient, kind, forgiving, does not keep a record of wrongs, its not proud. If you know this, what will be irreconcilable about your differences. People should bury their head in shame rather than glorify evil. Divorce is evil. Its consequences are damaging. Marry for the right reasons and stop making your failure a model for society.
You can take it from here.
SEE BELOW FOR THE TWITTER ACCOUNT CHAT OF THE COUPLE WITH THE WORLDS LONGEST MARRIAGE..YOU CAN DO IT
World's Longest Married Couple Has the Secret to Lasting Love
Herbert and Zelmyra Fisher
Herbert and Zelmyra Fisher have had what may very well be the best reason to be on the books at Guinness World Records: The North Carolina couple went down in history for having the longest marriage. For 86 years, 9 months, and 16 days. That’s eighty and a six. Years. That’s a lot of laundry, dinners, dishes, and—goodness gracious—bills. A lot of learning how to kiss and make up and enjoy each other and be a partner. Granted, they got hitched back in 1924, when folks stayed together out of a sense of duty as much as they did for love. But what an inspiration, particularly because there are more folks treating divorce as flippantly as a high school breakup than there should be.
Mr. Fisher passed away in February at a remarkable 104 years old, leaving his 101-year-old wife for the first time in almost nine decades. But the precious pair with the priceless story shared some relationship advice for their admirers and marathon marriage wannabes to mill over. On Valentine’s Day a few years ago, they took to their Twitter page (yes, they have a Twitter page) to share their secret for building a long marriage.
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The secret is there is none, according to them. No a-ha discovery. You just have to be invested in it and make it work the way you need to make it work. Here’s a little of what they said:
What made you realize that you could spend the rest of your lives together? Were you scared at all?
H&Z: With each day that passed, our relationship was more solid and secure. Divorce was NEVER an option—or even a thought.
What is your advice to someone who is trying to keep the faith that Mr. Right is really out there?
Zelmyra: Mine was just around the corner! He is never too far away, so keep the faith—when you meet him, you’ll know.
What are the most important attributes of a good spouse?
Zelmyra: A hard worker & good provider. The 1920s were hard, but Herbert wanted & provided the best for us. I married a good man!
At the end of bad relationship day, what is the most important thing to remind yourselves?
H&Z: Remember marriage is not a contest—never keep a score. God has put the two of you together on the same team to win.
Does communicating get easier with time? How do you keep your patience?
H&Z: The children are grown, so we talk more now. We can enjoy our time on the porch or our rocking chairs together.
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But above all else, they said, you have to be willing to stick it out. Well, that’s obvious. I’m pretty sure Mr. Herbert plucked Ms. Zelmyra’s nerves somewhere along the line just as much as I’m certain that Ms. Zelmyra rubbed Mr. Herbert the wrong way in 86 years. That’s a mighty long time to know a person, much less to grow and cohabitate with them. But 5 kids, 10 grandkids, 9 great-grands, and one great-great grand later, they made it work and stick. That’s the program I’m trying to be on. So along with my grandparents, Wayman and Mildred Harris, my pastors, Revs. Harold and Kellie Hayes, and Cliff and Claire Huxtable, I’m adding the Fishers to my inspiration list.
I’ve been thinking a lot about how different couples operate their love, how they make it last, how they grow together, even through life’s changes and challenges. Last year, I interviewed Niecey Nash (who is cute as a button, by the way) before she strolled down the aisle, and she had one of the best pre-nuptial ideas I’ve ever heard. Instead of having the standard bachelor/bachelorette shindigs—and probably all of the drama that goes along with them—she and her fiancé decided to host a dinner party with couples who had been married 20, 30, 40 years.
I let her know, at the end of our conversation, that I would be stealing that idea when it comes time for me to be a bride. I’m willing to sit at the feet of any older person. They’re so full of hard-earned wisdom, especially when it comes to matters of the heart.
Which couples in your life give you relationship inspiration?
CULLED FROM the stir.cafe mom.com
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